Whether sexual, physical or psychological, experiencing childhood abuse is a traumatic

Childhood trauma and abuse damage your ability to enter into trusting relationships, emotionally and physically and continues to have an impact on you throughout your life. Counselling for adult survivors of childhood abuse truly can help.


Though it's usually pretty uncomfortable to think about sitting down with a complete stranger to talk about being abused as a child, most people find that this anxiety goes away after a session or two. There's usually a huge sense of relief when you realize talking about your abuse just isn't as bad as you thought it would be. 

Many people need trauma counseling

The long-reaching effects of childhood abuse and trauma

If, as a child, you were abused or exposed to abuse, then you've probably learned to protect yourself with coping mechanisms like denial, withdrawal, approval-seeking, distancing yourself emotionally, switching off your feelings, acting out with substances or other additive behaviors, or blaming yourself. Learning to use these coping mechanisms during childhood was probably necessary and very functional. We call these "survival skills." You literally needed these coping skills to simply survive. But over time, these skills are no longer necessary and go on to have long-term consequences in your adult lives, which can include:

  • Low self-esteem or self-hatred

  • Feelings that you are somehow contaminated or unworthy

  • Depression

  • Guilt, shame and blame – guilt or shame because you feel you made no direct attempt to stop the abuse or because you experienced physical pleasure from it

  • Sleep disturbances / disorders – trouble sleeping because of the trauma and anxiety

  • Lack of trust for anyone – you feel betrayed by the very people you were dependent on those who were supposed to care for you, who insisted they loved you even while abusing you; learning to trust can be extremely difficult under these circumstances

  • Becoming an adult victim of abuse – as an adult you may find yourself in an abusive or dangerous relationships

  • Dissociation – You may go through a process where the mind distances itself from the experience because it is too much for your psyche to process at the time. This loss of connection with thoughts, memories, feelings, actions or sense of identity, is a coping mechanism and may affect aspects of your cognitive functioning

  • Sexuality / Intimacy issues – You may difficulty engaging in sexual relationships, which may bring about feelings of fright, frustration, or being ashamed

How you cope as an adult survivor of childhood abuse

As an adult survivor of childhood abuse you may have adopted coping mechanisms (or survival skills) to guard against feelings of terror and helplessness that you may have felt as a child. These past feelings can still have influence over your life and your present behavior. You may use some of these common coping mechanisms:

Grieving / Mourning

As a result of the childhood abuse, many experiences were lost— trust, innocence, loving relationships with family members. You may feel a deep sadness, jealousy, anger or longing for something that was destroyed or that you never had

Substance Abuse and other Addictions

Your experiences may cause you to use and abuse substances or other behaviors (sex, gambling, eating) that act as an escape from the intense waves of  sadness, terror, and helplessness


Burning or cutting are some ways for a survivor to relieve intense anxiety, triggered by memories of the abuse



You Can Heal from Childhood Trauma and Abuse


If you are ready to talk, I invite you to call me at 512-590-9868. I look forward to hearing from you.

Counseling for adults who suffered childhood abuse

Childhood abuse counseling offers you the chance to talk face-to-face in a safe, secure, and non-judgmental environment. My goal is to help you come to terms with these understandable emotional issues and realize your ability to take control of your life. 

Counseling for childhood abuse can offer you help with:

  • Being able to talk about the abuse - perhaps for the first time

  • Validating your experience

  • Managing and understanding the abuse from an adult perspective

  • Overcoming self-blame and shame

  • Feelings of anger towards the abuser - though there is never an expectation that you have to "confront" the abuser or abusers

  • Fear of violence and coercion

  • Anxiety and depression

  • Fear of abandonment

  • Lack of self-worth

  • Addressing behaviors that have outlived their purpose

  • Living authentically

  • Building resilience and trust

  • Restoring hope