MEN'S COUNSELING IN PALO ALTO & THE BAY AREA

Are you dealing with something you haven't been able to talk about with anyone? Are you struggling with a relationship, an addiction, or a major life change and finding it hard to ask for help?

Or maybe things aren't terrible but you know something needs to change and you're not sure where to start?

If you're a man in the Bay Area looking for a therapist, you've probably already cleared the hardest hurdle — deciding to look. Most men don't get here easily.

Why Men Don't Ask for Help

We're not raised to do this. Men are taught to handle their own problems, keep their own counsel, and figure things out without outside help. That instinct serves us well in a lot of areas. But when it comes to the things that actually matter — our relationships, our mental health, our addictions — going it alone usually makes things worse, not better.

Most of my clients tell me some version of the same thing: they waited too long. They knew something was wrong, they thought they could handle it themselves, and eventually the cost of not dealing with it became too high to ignore. A marriage in trouble. A job at risk. An addiction that was getting harder to hide.

You don't have to wait that long.

What Men Come to Me For

I've worked with men for nearly 30 years. The issues I work with most frequently include:

Sex addiction and pornography addiction
Drug and alcohol addiction
Infidelity — whether you cheated or were cheated on
Relationship and marriage problems
Difficulty expressing feelings or communicating with a partner
Depression and anger
Major life transitions — career changes, divorce, retirement

These aren't small things. They're the things that determine the quality of your life and your relationships. They're worth dealing with.

Why Work With a Male Therapist?

Many of my male clients specifically sought out a male therapist. They wanted someone who understood what it's like to be a man — the pressure to perform, to provide, to hold it together — without having to explain it. I get it because I've lived it.

I'm direct and practical. I don't do a lot of hand-holding or psychobabble. I ask direct questions and give direct answers. If something isn't working I'll tell you. Most men find that approach a relief.

Working Together via Telehealth

All sessions are conducted via telehealth, which means you can work with me from anywhere in California. I previously had an office in Palo Alto and have worked with Bay Area clients for many years — from the Peninsula to San Francisco to San Jose. No commute, no waiting room, no one who knows you seeing your car parked outside a therapist's office. You can do this from your home, your office, or anywhere private. For men who are already reluctant to ask for help, that kind of privacy removes one more barrier.

If you're in the Bay Area and ready to talk, I invite you to call me at 650-646-4220. I'm always willing to spend a few minutes on the phone first to see if we're a good fit.

What Happens to Men Who Never Deal With Their Stuff

Many men I’ve worked with over the last 30 years didn’t come to therapy because they decided it was time to work on themselves. They came because something broke. A marriage that finally hit its limit. A drinking problem or sex addiction that got too big to ignore. An affair that blew everything up. A kid who stopped talking to them. By the time they’re sitting across from me, the damage has usually been building for years — sometimes decades.

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